Know Your Sexual Fetish

Sharing the most intimate details of your sex life is still generally frowned upon. But, if you can't talk about it with your closest friends, will it be any easier to bring it up in the bedroom?

You might not have known much about experimenting with boundaries in the bedroom if it weren't for mainstream erotica and softcore pornography (hello, "Fifty Shades of Grey"). And we might not know how many Americans have tried — and liked — spanking and tying each other up if it weren't for anonymous studies.

The truth is that at least some of your friends have probably tried it, and one out of every five uses it as part of their regular bedroom play. According to the 2015 Sexual Exploration in America Study, more than 22% of sexually active adults engage in role-playing, and more than 20% have been tied up and spanked.

Perhaps more unexpected? Another survey discovered that nearly half of the 1,040 people polled were interested in kink, even if they hadn't had the chance to explore it. And there's growing evidence that having fun in the bedroom can be beneficial to both your health and your relationship.

What Is Kinky Sex? Understanding Fetishes and Role-Play

While there is no medical or technical definition, kink is generally defined as any sexual practice that deviates from convention. Common acts include loving touch, romantic talk, kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation, and oral sex. The term "kinky" refers to anything that deviates from the "straight and narrow," but a few categories frequently fall under the kinky sex umbrella:

• BDSM: Most people associate kinky sex with BDSM, a four-letter acronym that stands for six distinct concepts: bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. The activities in BDSM range from light paddle spanking and dominant/submissive role-playing to bondage parties and pain play (learn more about BDSM).

• Role-playing games and fantasy: Creating imagined scenarios is one of the most common forms of kinky sex. This can range from as simple as discussing a fantasy in bed to as complex as dressing up and acting out scenes in front of strangers.

• Fetishes: One in every four men and women is interested in fetish play, which is defined as sexually treating a nonsexual object or body part. Feet and shoes, leather or rubber, and diaper play are all common fetishes (yes).

• Exhibitionism and voyeurism: Observing someone undressed or a couple having sex without their knowledge are common voyeur fantasies, whereas having sex in public is an example of exhibitionism. Both are surprisingly common (and naughty) — 35% of adults polled expressed interest in voyeurism.

• Group sex: Threesomes, sex parties, orgies, and other acts involving more than two people are all examples of group sex. Ten percent of women and 18 percent of men have participated in group sex, with even higher percentages expressing interest.

How Kinky Sex Can Boost Your Pleasure and Well-Being

Science suggests that kinky sex may help you feel better and be more mentally healthy. According to a 2013 study, both dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners were more conscientious, less sensitive to rejection, and reported higher subjective well-being than the control group. This may indicate that kinky sex can help you grow and gain confidence.

Debunking Kinky Sex Myths: What You Really Need to Know

It's no surprise that there are many myths and misconceptions about kinky sex because we don't talk about it. Let's clear the air about a few kink stereotypes.

Women are also interested in kink:
While some types of kinky sex are more appealing to one sex than the other — for example, more men are interested in foot fetish play, while more women are interested in experiencing pain as part of sex — both men and women want to explore kink about equally.

BDSM doesn’t mean you’re “crazy”:
BDSM is frequently associated with abuse and violence in the mainstream media. However, studies show that the average person who engages in a consensual kink has better psychological health than the general population.

You don’t need expensive equipment:
When you think of kinky sex, images of a leather-clad dominatrix wielding a matching whip may come to mind. But really, all you need is your imagination and a willing partner.

Safe and Exciting Tips for Exploring Kinky Sex

There are definitely stores for certain fetishes or if you want to explore the world more thoroughly. However, trying kink requires far less equipment than, say, playing in your local recreational hockey league. If you want to experiment with sensory deprivation or restraints, you don't even need blindfolds or handcuffs — a tie or pillowcase will suffice.

How to keeping bedroom play enjoyable and safe? Even though kinky sex has many advantages and can be whatever you and your partner want it to be, there are a few things you should keep in mind to ensure that your explorations are enjoyable, safe, and positive.

Everything starts with an agreement.
Informed consent isn't just something you should do before meeting a new partner; it should also happen before any sex act, especially if you're trying something new. Communication is essential in all sexual relationships, especially when exploring dominant/submissive roles or potentially causing pain.

Safe words are no laughing matter.
Restraints or resistance may be a part of your fantasy, which is more common than you might think among women. To ensure that you can say no in your fantasy world while also clearly saying no to your partner, use a safe word that you both agree on before you get kinky. The default phrases are red light (stop) and green light (go) (keep going).

Consider (and discuss) your "hard limits."
Everyone has their own set of limits and boundaries. While being open to new bedroom activities is great, it's also important to be open about what you don't want to explore (as in never, ever). Discuss these "hard limits" openly with your partner — there's no need to be coy.

Make sure the pain is pleasurable — and that it has no negative health consequences.
Mixing pain and pleasure is a big part of kinky sex. While many couples draw the line at light spanking or slapping, those who explore other avenues, such as breast and genital pain, should educate themselves to avoid serious or long-term tissue or nerve damage.

Aftercare is equally important.
Women can experience "postcoital dysphoraTrusted Source" even when having non-kinky sex, which includes symptoms such as anxiety, irritability, or motiveless crying. It is critical to counteract this with aftercare that includes emotional intimacy and communication, especially for BDSM.

So don't just go to bed after a night of intense sex. Check-in with your partner to ensure they're okay with what just happened.

Remember that kinky sex is exactly what you want it to be.
Kink can appear very differently to different couples, and that's perfectly fine. Getting into kink doesn't have to start with purchasing a leather body suit and a whip. It could be as simple as observing what happens when you depart from your normal bedroom routine and enter a new world of sex.

Kinky Sex Your Way: Exploring Fantasies Safely

Kink can appear very differently to different couples. It doesn’t have to start with buying a leather suit and whip; it can be as simple as observing what happens when you depart from your normal routine (explore kinky sex ideas).

A sexual fetish is a strong interest in a particular object or activity necessary for sexual gratification. One popular fetish is sex dolls, involving life-like dolls used to fulfill sexual desires. People enjoy dressing them up, positioning them, and having sexual interactions with them.

Sex Doll Fetishes: BBW, Life Size, and Big Ass Dolls from Tantaly

If you’re interested in exploring a sex doll fetish, Tantaly offers a wide selection of dolls in various sizes and styles, including BBW sex dolls, life-size sex dolls and big ass sex dolls, You can even customize them to suit your preferences.

Exploring a sex doll fetish can enhance sexual pleasure and let you safely experiment with fantasies. Remember to choose quality products from reputable sellers to ensure safety and hygiene.